What is dating today?
In today’s society the dating game is just that, a game. Yet, how do you overcome the game and make it to the “next level?” Especially, when the rules are fuzzy and ever changing. I believe that singles find themselves frustrated and confused about the correct procedures to follow. Ross Gompertz is a young, single individual that just recently found himself back out into the hazy world of dating. Here are his feelings on the topic of the opposite sex.
1) The dictionary definition to date is informally going out (with someone in whom one is romantically or sexually interested in). What is your definition of dating?
R: “Let me think about it… Finding someone that you want to spend time with, that doesn’t really answer your question though. You have to be pretty romantically involved with them, because you can hang out with female friends one on one, but that’s not really dating.”
2) People use many terms when associating their more intimate relationships. For example, “seeing someone” and “dating someone” have two entirely different connotations in our society. What do they mean to you and do you feel that the varying definitions for dating make reading someone’s feelings for you difficult?
R: “I’d say if you’re ‘dating’ somebody, you don’t know them very well yet, your just kind of, you’re still able to hang out and date other people. But if your ‘seeing’ somebody, it’s more exclusive and… ugh… I think it does make it difficult to judge because they may think that being alone with them means that you are dating. Where somebody else you would think that you have to get intimate with them to feel the same way.”
3) What do you look for in someone that you are romantically interested in?
R: “Someone who participates in an active hobby, something that they enjoy doing outside of whatever they do; school, work etc. They have to be pretty laidback, pretty adventurous, keep up with me not just physically, but in general. They have to be an equal. Just being an equal is important, a sense of humor and being smart helps. Oh! And they have to like animals, no question about it.”
4) Do you believe men and women can be friends without any underlying sexual tension?
R: “Yes, although it’s rare. I’ve had some friends that I thought were my friends and eventually they asked me out so… I guess not ha ha ha.”
5) What seems to be the appropriate dating “timeline” for a couple?
R: I think it depends on the people involved and their beliefs on that. I’m not really very concerned with a “timeline.”
6) What are some things that are big red flags that turn you off immediately to a person that you’re attracted to?
R: “I would go with, if they’re inconsiderate or mean to the people around them… that’s not cool. There have been times where I have immediately stopped and not liked someone for something they did, but I can’t remember what it was or if they were mean to animals.”
7) What are the big faux pas that many singles make in the search for another?
R: “I would say feeling that no one likes them, so they don’t interact with other single people, not having the confidence to try. That’s my biggest problem, because if I try I might actually succeed, at some point. They give up before they start.”
8) What is the best thing, action, initiative etc that would mean the most to you coming from another person?
R: “That’s tough, I don’t know. Probably, if I was having a hard time just offering to talk about things and hang out with me. Having someone to talk to when your all stressed out is pretty awesome.”
9) Is the dating scene worth it?
R: “It’s pretty worth it. It depends on how bored you are.”
10) And of course, the best pick up line…
R: “Hi my name is Ross Gompertz. What?”
Friday, May 23, 2008
Friday, May 2, 2008
Field Assignment 2
Dorm Baby… What to do what to do?
A Fremont Hall resident gave birth to a baby girl in bathroom.
Cal Poly students awoke to Monday classes and a baby? Sunday evening at roughly 4:30 pm a Fremont resident gave birth to a baby girl in the dorm’s third floor bathroom.
Emergency personnel arrived to the scene to find the mother holding the baby in a towel. Both mother and baby were taken to a hospital and are ok according to officials.
So it happened, there was a baby on campus. Now what to do? The aftermath can be worse than the storm. Picking up the pieces of a life now torn apart by the harsh limelight. Acquaintances that did not want to be mentioned say that she wants to come back and pick up where she left off. Get back into her life and move forward.
“I feel sorry for her, whoever she is. Everybody is talking about her and I’m sure all she wanted was to have the baby and not have the whole world know,” a fellow freshman Shelley Dangoor said about the incident.
But how as a Resident Advisor or Community Advisor supposed to deal with such a rare incident? Resident Advisors and Community Advisors or less formally known as RA’s and CA’s are the hired students that look over the various dorms and halls on campus.
According to Julie Rudd a Fremont Resident the RA’s in Fremont and on campus, in general, have been doing a good job keeping this whole episode under wraps.
“They are doing a good job of keeping a balance of being supportive, but not condoning it… They are respecting the residents privacy.”
The kind of protocol that is being implemented during this time is lots of signs asking the students not to speak to the media. Having the Head of Affairs come and speak to the residents, specifically in Fremont, regarding the situation. As well as, the Community Supervisor or CSD, Ashley Wendell spoke the following Monday. She spoke in the hopes to confront the students and have an open discussion about what they knew and how they felt… to gather all the facts.
Unfortunately Wendell could not be reached on the matter, but it appears that there was little to no suspicion that the Resident was pregnant. Jessica Hudson another acquaintance of the Resident said that [she] “had just seen her the week before. I thought is was the Freshmen 15… I never suspected she was pregnant, because she wasn’t big. She always complained about how stressed she was from school. I thought it was due to the stress. Not Pregnancy!”
Another student Shawn Christensen attributed the event to being “tragic” for all involved. “I don’t understand why she was compelled to keep it a secreat? Its unfortunate to think that there wasn’t someone that she trusted enough to help her through the pregnancy. It’s just tragic…”
But through this event her name is still unknown to the majority of students and it appears that even though students are discussing the affair, those that know her are keeping her name and any other information private.
Author: Erica Davis
May 1, 2008
Word Count: 534
A Fremont Hall resident gave birth to a baby girl in bathroom.
Cal Poly students awoke to Monday classes and a baby? Sunday evening at roughly 4:30 pm a Fremont resident gave birth to a baby girl in the dorm’s third floor bathroom.
Emergency personnel arrived to the scene to find the mother holding the baby in a towel. Both mother and baby were taken to a hospital and are ok according to officials.
So it happened, there was a baby on campus. Now what to do? The aftermath can be worse than the storm. Picking up the pieces of a life now torn apart by the harsh limelight. Acquaintances that did not want to be mentioned say that she wants to come back and pick up where she left off. Get back into her life and move forward.
“I feel sorry for her, whoever she is. Everybody is talking about her and I’m sure all she wanted was to have the baby and not have the whole world know,” a fellow freshman Shelley Dangoor said about the incident.
But how as a Resident Advisor or Community Advisor supposed to deal with such a rare incident? Resident Advisors and Community Advisors or less formally known as RA’s and CA’s are the hired students that look over the various dorms and halls on campus.
According to Julie Rudd a Fremont Resident the RA’s in Fremont and on campus, in general, have been doing a good job keeping this whole episode under wraps.
“They are doing a good job of keeping a balance of being supportive, but not condoning it… They are respecting the residents privacy.”
The kind of protocol that is being implemented during this time is lots of signs asking the students not to speak to the media. Having the Head of Affairs come and speak to the residents, specifically in Fremont, regarding the situation. As well as, the Community Supervisor or CSD, Ashley Wendell spoke the following Monday. She spoke in the hopes to confront the students and have an open discussion about what they knew and how they felt… to gather all the facts.
Unfortunately Wendell could not be reached on the matter, but it appears that there was little to no suspicion that the Resident was pregnant. Jessica Hudson another acquaintance of the Resident said that [she] “had just seen her the week before. I thought is was the Freshmen 15… I never suspected she was pregnant, because she wasn’t big. She always complained about how stressed she was from school. I thought it was due to the stress. Not Pregnancy!”
Another student Shawn Christensen attributed the event to being “tragic” for all involved. “I don’t understand why she was compelled to keep it a secreat? Its unfortunate to think that there wasn’t someone that she trusted enough to help her through the pregnancy. It’s just tragic…”
But through this event her name is still unknown to the majority of students and it appears that even though students are discussing the affair, those that know her are keeping her name and any other information private.
Author: Erica Davis
May 1, 2008
Word Count: 534
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